Friday we had some appointments in Madison. We were suppose to see urology and pulmonary. We only made it to our pulmonary one unfortunately, although I'm not sad about because that is the more important one. Sol needed to just be checked over to see how growth and everything is going for him. They made no changes at all. No feed changes, no equipment changes, everything is going overall well for him so we had no need to change anything. Yay! Also he is doing well overall so we dont need to do another pulmonary appointment until 2 months from now instead of every month. Yay!
but the big thing at his appointment was having a speech therapist come take a look at him and decide if he would he able to try the speaking valve. She didn't even really look at him she just brought the valve and they decided to just try it. I was terrrrrified. They told us lua was always way to weak to try it, I doubt that now, she seemed to be a little stronger breather than sol is so now I'm guessing she would have been able to try the valve as well. Anyway, we also had a different speech therapist look ag him and she didn't feel like he would be able to do the valve yet. So I was nervous!! The way the valve works is you breathe the air in normally but it doesn't allow air to come out the trach, it pushes it up through the mouth. It is more work to do this.
But they felt it was fine to try it. He was on his pulse ox to watch his oxygen and heart rate and had him in his best position for him to push out saliva. He cant have a ton of saliva in his throat other wise he can't move the air out of his mouth easily. They popped it on and he started working hard and trying to figure out how to exhale, but in just a few seconds he figured it out and started talking! He looooved it! He smiled and looked so proud that he could hear his own voice. I kept asking if we should take it off, because he did have to breathe differently and a little harder, but they said no just leave him because he was sitting at 100% for his oxygen and normal heart rate. So we let him go for awhile and he babbled away!
since he passed the test we were able to take the valve home with us and we are allowed to try it 2x a day for 5 mins. Then next week if we have had no issues we can do 3x a day and keep moving up as long as he is tolerating. It is amazing and so exciting!
we used it last night when we got home and he did amazing again! It blows me away. This morning we did it and he wasn't 100% happy with it. It took him a little longer to figure it out but at the end of 5mins he wasn't very happy... If he is getting sleepy this valve is too hard for him I think. So we will keep working on it and see where we go from here. It is extremely exciting. He has less secretions while on it because he is pushing the saliva out instead of down so we dont end up suctioning him a lot when he is using it. We feel almost like we are hitting normal baby life! Like there is such a thing! But you can't imagine how great it is to hear your baby's voice! We even heard a giggle last night. We hear him when he is on the vent but this is him doing it all on his own. Just amazing. You really thank technology for how far we have come to give us a device like this that a baby can use so baby and parents can hear them. Just amazing!
Saturday, July 30, 2016
Thursday, July 21, 2016
one persons thunderstorm is another persons rainbow.
If you don't follow articles on the mighty, I highly recommend it. They typically have something that covers for everyone, because face it, we have all been through something. Today I read an article about suicidal thoughts, not wanting to die but just not wanting to exist, and I thought it was a really good read. Here is the link.
http://themighty.com/2016/07/suicidal-thoughts-but-not-suicidal/?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=Mighty_Page&utm_campaign=MENTALHEALTH
But at the end, I read the comments from other people, like I always do, and I read someone who said they feel exactly like this. They have two young kids and some days they just don't want to disappear and go to an island and be alone. It is funny, I know what the chick means and how she feels. I remember feeling overwhelmed some days with just May! It is funny now, though, because that persons nightmare is my dream! Their thunderstorm is my rainbow. What I wouldn't give to have two young perfectly healthy kids that are overwhelming me. I only know that this would be amazing because I have like one of the worst options in the world. But I feel like this statement holds true.. my thunderstorm is probably someone else's rainbow. I don't know who, but it could be. Maybe someone who can't get pregnant at all would love to have a medically fragile child after losing one child. I don't know...
Sol had his first sleep over at grandma and grandpa's house last weekend. It was my 10 year high school reunion - old - and then my great uncles 90th birthday party the next day, so we figured it would be easier to go for over night. Sol did well, but we had some heater problems with his vent. He didn't seem to care though. He did okay at the birthday party, he needed a little more suctioning than I would have liked but... BUT! He got his first tooth over the weekend!!! So the suctioning was understandable. He cut the other tooth by tuesday, so the kid has been busy getting these teeth out! He now has two bottom teeth, and it seems he is working hard to get the top teeth out as well. He has been so very cranky ever since the second tooth popped out. We will see what the weekend holds for teething.
We had a few therapy appointments this week, we tried to go to speech therapy twice but we just went on the wrong day.. oops. I am currently not a fan of our out patient speech therapist, nothing compares to what we were getting in the hospital, but it is seeming like yet again we are getting therapist who feel like since there is so much work that needs to be done with him that maaaayyybe it is just too much to do. We were asked what our goals were and if we were making sure to be doing things for his quality of life vs our quality of life, because you know, he doesn't know that he is being tube fed. One that is a lie he does know it because he loves when you put food in his mouth, and second of course everything we do is to make life better for him. I was really upset that she said this because to me it sounded like "im really lazy and I don't want to work with someone that i dont think ill get results from"
I dislike this so much. But we will see what happens, either we move forward or he goes backwards and then we will just quit.
Sol goes for some more appointments the end of this month and then we will be setting up a time to start his casting. Busy end to this month, and I think August will be pretty busy as well!
http://themighty.com/2016/07/suicidal-thoughts-but-not-suicidal/?utm_source=Facebook&utm_medium=Mighty_Page&utm_campaign=MENTALHEALTH
But at the end, I read the comments from other people, like I always do, and I read someone who said they feel exactly like this. They have two young kids and some days they just don't want to disappear and go to an island and be alone. It is funny, I know what the chick means and how she feels. I remember feeling overwhelmed some days with just May! It is funny now, though, because that persons nightmare is my dream! Their thunderstorm is my rainbow. What I wouldn't give to have two young perfectly healthy kids that are overwhelming me. I only know that this would be amazing because I have like one of the worst options in the world. But I feel like this statement holds true.. my thunderstorm is probably someone else's rainbow. I don't know who, but it could be. Maybe someone who can't get pregnant at all would love to have a medically fragile child after losing one child. I don't know...
Sol had his first sleep over at grandma and grandpa's house last weekend. It was my 10 year high school reunion - old - and then my great uncles 90th birthday party the next day, so we figured it would be easier to go for over night. Sol did well, but we had some heater problems with his vent. He didn't seem to care though. He did okay at the birthday party, he needed a little more suctioning than I would have liked but... BUT! He got his first tooth over the weekend!!! So the suctioning was understandable. He cut the other tooth by tuesday, so the kid has been busy getting these teeth out! He now has two bottom teeth, and it seems he is working hard to get the top teeth out as well. He has been so very cranky ever since the second tooth popped out. We will see what the weekend holds for teething.
We had a few therapy appointments this week, we tried to go to speech therapy twice but we just went on the wrong day.. oops. I am currently not a fan of our out patient speech therapist, nothing compares to what we were getting in the hospital, but it is seeming like yet again we are getting therapist who feel like since there is so much work that needs to be done with him that maaaayyybe it is just too much to do. We were asked what our goals were and if we were making sure to be doing things for his quality of life vs our quality of life, because you know, he doesn't know that he is being tube fed. One that is a lie he does know it because he loves when you put food in his mouth, and second of course everything we do is to make life better for him. I was really upset that she said this because to me it sounded like "im really lazy and I don't want to work with someone that i dont think ill get results from"
I dislike this so much. But we will see what happens, either we move forward or he goes backwards and then we will just quit.
Sol goes for some more appointments the end of this month and then we will be setting up a time to start his casting. Busy end to this month, and I think August will be pretty busy as well!
Friday, July 15, 2016
the mommy hood.
Mommy hood. Oh mommy hood. There are so many things that make this difficult, healthy kid or not. From my experience one of the most difficult things that make being a mom so difficult is, other moms. As much as I believe in having mommy friends for support, they can also make it very hard. Everyone does things differently and there are some people out there that know their way is the best and only way to do things. We know that isn't true, but I don't know what it is that makes mothers feel the need to out do each other. Be "better" than the other person. That may be... you think formula is better than breastmilk, cloth diapers vs disposable, vaccines vs no vaccines... I don't need to go on, those of us in the mommy hood know what the hot topics are and we all have our opinions. I've had my opinions too, and although I know I've had my share of judgmental moments, I would like to think I have tried to do my best to not force my opinions down someones throat and make them feel like they are less than me because they don't do it the way I do. This is something that has become painful to me after having Lua and Sol...
I don't know why as parents we find the need to try to out do each other. I think because having kids it becomes your next chance, if they do great than that reflects on how well you did as a parent, so we start making competitions. I felt this pressure a lot with May, everyone who had a baby May's age, it seemed like a constant battle.. Well my kid started crawling at 5 months! My kid was rolling over by 2 weeks! My kid was potty trained by 12 months! Or the one I heard the most, My baby started walking at 7! no 6! Months!! (a stranger actually told me that one....yeah..) Maybe it is more of a first parent type thing, or I really wouldn't know because things have been so different for me compared to most parents with second and third child. I just don't know why we do it. A healthy kid will eventually crawl, walk, talk, get out of diapers.. why are we in such a rush to make them grow up?
Regardless, it has come to my attention that sometimes I am out of line for blocking people on facebook (i know this because people have been telling me this and asking why they get deleted, very distant relatives i have never met have come up to me and asked why I won't add them on facebook... uhhm..). I don't think I really need to explain myself, but then I think, maybe just maybe some day someone else will find themselves in my situation and think, 'man if only someone would have written it out for me that I could explain to people how I feel.'
Then this will be well worth it, although it is a long shot because if someone finds themselves in my situation they probably won't care at all to make it a point to explain anything to anyone else, but put all their attention on making it through each day! But here I am wanting to explain myself anyway.
So, to my mommy friends support group,
I don't know why as parents we find the need to try to out do each other. I think because having kids it becomes your next chance, if they do great than that reflects on how well you did as a parent, so we start making competitions. I felt this pressure a lot with May, everyone who had a baby May's age, it seemed like a constant battle.. Well my kid started crawling at 5 months! My kid was rolling over by 2 weeks! My kid was potty trained by 12 months! Or the one I heard the most, My baby started walking at 7! no 6! Months!! (a stranger actually told me that one....yeah..) Maybe it is more of a first parent type thing, or I really wouldn't know because things have been so different for me compared to most parents with second and third child. I just don't know why we do it. A healthy kid will eventually crawl, walk, talk, get out of diapers.. why are we in such a rush to make them grow up?
Regardless, it has come to my attention that sometimes I am out of line for blocking people on facebook (i know this because people have been telling me this and asking why they get deleted, very distant relatives i have never met have come up to me and asked why I won't add them on facebook... uhhm..). I don't think I really need to explain myself, but then I think, maybe just maybe some day someone else will find themselves in my situation and think, 'man if only someone would have written it out for me that I could explain to people how I feel.'
Then this will be well worth it, although it is a long shot because if someone finds themselves in my situation they probably won't care at all to make it a point to explain anything to anyone else, but put all their attention on making it through each day! But here I am wanting to explain myself anyway.
So, to my mommy friends support group,
Please do not take offense if I have deleted or blocked you from facebook, I know we have heard the term it isn't you it is me, but in this case it really is. I take the time now to be a little more selfish than maybe I should be and that is why you may find that I can't be friends with you right now. I have had a hard time dealing with my grief, and after I lost Lua I actually left a mommy support group that I was on for many months so that my negativity and only wanting to post depressing posts wouldn't affect all those in the group. One day I had found that someone re-added me to the group and since I was recently pregnant with Sol I decided to stay, but constantly seeing many others having healthy pregnancy after healthy pregnancy made it really difficult for me to stay happy and all I wanted to do was say things that I knew I would regret, and sometimes I did it anyway. So for me to be able to stay in the group and not feel like wanting to put a knife through my eye, I had to eliminate the things that caused me the most pain. Unfortunately, sometimes that meant people who were/are currently pregnant. It is so hard for me to see healthy baby after healthy baby and I try to be so happy for everyone as much as I can, but sometimes it just wears me out, wears me down. I'm a very broken person at the time-being and I hope one day these things will be easier for me to handle. I know some are thinking just leave the group, well I tried once and besides I do have one healthy child and sometimes I have questions for the group about that. You are also probably thinking, just turn off the notifications for the page, I have done that. Turn off notifications of the people you don't want to see so much of, I have done that and things still show up. So I have tried other things, and sometimes I get to curious as to what everyone else is up to in life and go 'facebook stalking' and i only end up super upset, I know myself and I know the only way to help myself is to take away the option to do that completely. It is almost a great compliment if we are no longer friends on facebook, because that means I think your life is going so great I wish I could be in the same situation! Jealousy is a hard thing to deal with sometimes.
So again, please don't be offended, although I know some still will, I honestly really need to do what is best for me though. I would leave facebook completely so I dont need to deal with any of this, but facebook is the only way Thiagos family can see our family. If you would like to know what you can do, please just be patient and understanding, it is all I ask.
Thank you.
So again, please don't be offended, although I know some still will, I honestly really need to do what is best for me though. I would leave facebook completely so I dont need to deal with any of this, but facebook is the only way Thiagos family can see our family. If you would like to know what you can do, please just be patient and understanding, it is all I ask.
Thank you.
Tuesday, July 12, 2016
no place.
I never have the time to sit and think of a subject I want to write about, when I do start in a rant, I either have sol needing something or may. In the end I just go with not writing anything so I dont end up writing something I shouldn't have or something I haven't thought through. But I've been really down lately and thought getting something out would be nice.
I dont like when I feel down and have no specific reason for it to pin point the problem and try to fix it. I think I'm just tired of seeing everyone's happy lives while every day is a struggle for us to get through. The problem, facebook. I really hate it. I also hate feeling trapped. It is so hard to go out and do anything with sol and that is so unfair. Everyone can go do anything they want with their babies, but we have to split up if we want to go out, family outings dont happen often. Funny though if we had a healthy baby we probably wouldn't want to take them out to things anyways, but the fact of knowing how hard it is makes me so mad. Or maybe I'm down lately because in a few weeks sol will be the same age lua was when she passed away. I hate that I was an incompetent mother for her and couldn't help her more. I mostly hate that I have the worlds worst genes that causes this to happen to babies and there is nothing I can do about it. So very unfair. I know complaining won't help my situation, it will probably just make it worse in the end, but some days I'm just so sad.
I feel like there is no place for me anywhere. All the support groups im in either their kids are so much better than sol and I dont get much from them, or they have a progressive disease and are declining in health which I can't exactly relate to, this is the problem of not having a diagnosis, I can't find the right group for support. When friends or family talk about kids they really only ask how may acted as a baby, because the other two kids I had dont count?!! Apparently not. I've never talked to someone who cared about luas sleeping habits or how sol sucks on a nuk, if you aren't something that everyone else is then no one relates to you and you get pushed aside in life. And that sucks. They say all life matters, what actually people mean to say is all life matters that is just like me. Maybe that is harsh, but come on... Really.. People only know what they can relate to, if you have never lived an experience how are you expected to know how it feels? I think that's a big part in why some people don't like the black lives matter. If you have never been harassed by the cops before then you cant even relate to how that feels. My husband has been harassed by cops in Brazil just because of his skin color. So although I never lived it, I've heard his experience and I can understand how scary that can be and the fact that it happens. Of course all lives matter, but not all lives are treated the same! As sol gets older, how easy of a life can you imagine he will have... Maybe there will be a few kids that treat him well but the majority of people will not treat him like everyone else because he isn't exactly like you and me. He isn't treated like a normal already, and no one cares. I just see how people are so happy it isn't them, it isn't their baby, isn't their family.
Which is why I say there is no place for me. I only receive pity, sympathy, or condescending people call me such a strong mother. It is all crap. I can tell it is said because they are so glad this never happened to them. My grandma, bless her heart, said that to me when we found out sol was affected... She said, I never had any of those issues with my children and I'm so glad I never had to deal with something like that. As harsh as it sounds and at the time I really didn't enjoy hearing that, it is truth and honest and I thank her for that. For not giving me some crap line as to, oh this is Gods will, everything has a reason, or some stupid untrue line like that. What you should say is, sometimes bad things happen to people that we don't know why and it sucks. Just be honest.
anyway, I seemed to have covered a bit during this post, so I shall put this thing to rest. Funny that when I started I didn't have much to say...
I dont like when I feel down and have no specific reason for it to pin point the problem and try to fix it. I think I'm just tired of seeing everyone's happy lives while every day is a struggle for us to get through. The problem, facebook. I really hate it. I also hate feeling trapped. It is so hard to go out and do anything with sol and that is so unfair. Everyone can go do anything they want with their babies, but we have to split up if we want to go out, family outings dont happen often. Funny though if we had a healthy baby we probably wouldn't want to take them out to things anyways, but the fact of knowing how hard it is makes me so mad. Or maybe I'm down lately because in a few weeks sol will be the same age lua was when she passed away. I hate that I was an incompetent mother for her and couldn't help her more. I mostly hate that I have the worlds worst genes that causes this to happen to babies and there is nothing I can do about it. So very unfair. I know complaining won't help my situation, it will probably just make it worse in the end, but some days I'm just so sad.
I feel like there is no place for me anywhere. All the support groups im in either their kids are so much better than sol and I dont get much from them, or they have a progressive disease and are declining in health which I can't exactly relate to, this is the problem of not having a diagnosis, I can't find the right group for support. When friends or family talk about kids they really only ask how may acted as a baby, because the other two kids I had dont count?!! Apparently not. I've never talked to someone who cared about luas sleeping habits or how sol sucks on a nuk, if you aren't something that everyone else is then no one relates to you and you get pushed aside in life. And that sucks. They say all life matters, what actually people mean to say is all life matters that is just like me. Maybe that is harsh, but come on... Really.. People only know what they can relate to, if you have never lived an experience how are you expected to know how it feels? I think that's a big part in why some people don't like the black lives matter. If you have never been harassed by the cops before then you cant even relate to how that feels. My husband has been harassed by cops in Brazil just because of his skin color. So although I never lived it, I've heard his experience and I can understand how scary that can be and the fact that it happens. Of course all lives matter, but not all lives are treated the same! As sol gets older, how easy of a life can you imagine he will have... Maybe there will be a few kids that treat him well but the majority of people will not treat him like everyone else because he isn't exactly like you and me. He isn't treated like a normal already, and no one cares. I just see how people are so happy it isn't them, it isn't their baby, isn't their family.
Which is why I say there is no place for me. I only receive pity, sympathy, or condescending people call me such a strong mother. It is all crap. I can tell it is said because they are so glad this never happened to them. My grandma, bless her heart, said that to me when we found out sol was affected... She said, I never had any of those issues with my children and I'm so glad I never had to deal with something like that. As harsh as it sounds and at the time I really didn't enjoy hearing that, it is truth and honest and I thank her for that. For not giving me some crap line as to, oh this is Gods will, everything has a reason, or some stupid untrue line like that. What you should say is, sometimes bad things happen to people that we don't know why and it sucks. Just be honest.
anyway, I seemed to have covered a bit during this post, so I shall put this thing to rest. Funny that when I started I didn't have much to say...
Thursday, June 23, 2016
then and now.
Sol has been doing well lately. He has really been making me so proud, and our hard days are not necessarily about him and his health lately. He is continuing to practice his head control, he is loving kicking on his gym, moving his fingers a little more, and yesterday he was rotating his wrists. His movements and strength is very small, but compared to none, it is huge. His breathing has been doing okay, I did suction out some blood yesterday night and I have no clue why, maybe he got too dry during the day or I don't know why. The last few days he has been making many attempts to swallow and I can certainly tell a difference since I am down to suctioning a couple times an hour compared to many times an hour. We decided to add outpatient speech therapy to our list of doctor appointments. We only had an evaluation last week but our plan is to go twice a week and we will see what happens.
There is something difficult about how well Sol does. The better he gets, the more guilt I have. The more I believe that if we would have taken the same steps with Lua, she would still be here and doing just as well as he is. I am so happy how well he is doing but it is proof that our previous hospital failed us. I believe that we are the parents to ultimately it is our responsibility and we are at fault, BUT, we are not doctors and until Lua we never knew anything about muscle conditions, how were we to know? It was only after many struggles with Lua did I look into what other help was out there. I was afraid to initially switch hospitals though. I kept telling myself that we would check out Madison as soon as things cooled down. She then got sick and thinking after she got better we would look at another hospital. I actually heard of a pulmonary doctor in New Jersey and I contacted him and we discussed a plan for Lua. Thiago and I decided that we would use the money from Lua's benefit and go to New Jersey and see this doctor. That was just a few days before she passed away. We wanted to go when she got better of course, but it was too late by then.
This is the problem with our medical system. From our point of view the hospital we were at with Lua was too proud to tell us up front that they don't know much about this condition and we should seek help from another facility, another doctor, another hospital if we wanted to provide a longer life for her. Maybe they don't see it that way, maybe they think they did do everything they could for us, but regardless if they will admit to this or not, their beliefs are not for quantity of life but quality. Which is why when a baby with SMA is born the hospital will say take them home and love them because they will pass away shortly. The reason they will pass away shortly is because this hospital doesn't want to prolong a life they believe is not worth living. This is the difference between the doctors we had then and the doctor we have now. She believes kids with SMA can have a happy prolong life. She believes in the parents and their wishes. In the end it is up to us to decide what we want for our children. I understand completely parents who do decide to take the route of giving the best life they can to their children but not prolonging it. I get it, there are many, many things to take into consideration for a parent to get to this point, and I truly get it. I also get why parents want as many years as they can get. It IS the parents choice, not the hospitals. Give us information on each decision and let us decide.
I wish very badly that this is something the milwaukee childrens would change. Their style is old style. We talked to our current doctor a lot about this, we know that they have all the information that Madison has but they are choosing not to use it. Why? Is it because they think babies like ours aren't worth it to fight for? We were told many times with Lua how much work she would be. Oh it is going to be so much work, she is going to need so much care, do you understand how much work it will be... Allllll the time I heard this. I got so tired, so so so exhausted from hearing this. You know what... I never heard this at madison. I never had a time I went into the NICU and they told me all the bad things that could happen. I actually had doctors say how they were so impressed with him and how they love how much he was changing and improving. He made all the doctors in Madison very proud. It was Crazy!!
Well I had to stop writing this after awhile and now I can't get back into my train of thought so I suppose I will have to end this. My point to it all is milwaukee needs to change at least for the parents who want the change.
There is something difficult about how well Sol does. The better he gets, the more guilt I have. The more I believe that if we would have taken the same steps with Lua, she would still be here and doing just as well as he is. I am so happy how well he is doing but it is proof that our previous hospital failed us. I believe that we are the parents to ultimately it is our responsibility and we are at fault, BUT, we are not doctors and until Lua we never knew anything about muscle conditions, how were we to know? It was only after many struggles with Lua did I look into what other help was out there. I was afraid to initially switch hospitals though. I kept telling myself that we would check out Madison as soon as things cooled down. She then got sick and thinking after she got better we would look at another hospital. I actually heard of a pulmonary doctor in New Jersey and I contacted him and we discussed a plan for Lua. Thiago and I decided that we would use the money from Lua's benefit and go to New Jersey and see this doctor. That was just a few days before she passed away. We wanted to go when she got better of course, but it was too late by then.
This is the problem with our medical system. From our point of view the hospital we were at with Lua was too proud to tell us up front that they don't know much about this condition and we should seek help from another facility, another doctor, another hospital if we wanted to provide a longer life for her. Maybe they don't see it that way, maybe they think they did do everything they could for us, but regardless if they will admit to this or not, their beliefs are not for quantity of life but quality. Which is why when a baby with SMA is born the hospital will say take them home and love them because they will pass away shortly. The reason they will pass away shortly is because this hospital doesn't want to prolong a life they believe is not worth living. This is the difference between the doctors we had then and the doctor we have now. She believes kids with SMA can have a happy prolong life. She believes in the parents and their wishes. In the end it is up to us to decide what we want for our children. I understand completely parents who do decide to take the route of giving the best life they can to their children but not prolonging it. I get it, there are many, many things to take into consideration for a parent to get to this point, and I truly get it. I also get why parents want as many years as they can get. It IS the parents choice, not the hospitals. Give us information on each decision and let us decide.
I wish very badly that this is something the milwaukee childrens would change. Their style is old style. We talked to our current doctor a lot about this, we know that they have all the information that Madison has but they are choosing not to use it. Why? Is it because they think babies like ours aren't worth it to fight for? We were told many times with Lua how much work she would be. Oh it is going to be so much work, she is going to need so much care, do you understand how much work it will be... Allllll the time I heard this. I got so tired, so so so exhausted from hearing this. You know what... I never heard this at madison. I never had a time I went into the NICU and they told me all the bad things that could happen. I actually had doctors say how they were so impressed with him and how they love how much he was changing and improving. He made all the doctors in Madison very proud. It was Crazy!!
Well I had to stop writing this after awhile and now I can't get back into my train of thought so I suppose I will have to end this. My point to it all is milwaukee needs to change at least for the parents who want the change.
Thursday, June 9, 2016
apple tree.
Our awesome neighbor had some tree guys over, arborists I guess is the right term, and they happened to have some apple trees on discount. We got one and they planted it for us and also replanted our other tree in the yard. I love trees, a lot, so this is exciting. Not only will this tree be able to grow with Sol, but it was planted one day after our niece was born! The very next day I drug the kids out there to get their pictures taken with the tree. Sol hated this, but I was really proud of May, she held Sol all by herself! Some adults can't do this! She is a great big sister!
Sol had his well child check up today. He is now 15lbs 13oz and in the 25% on weight! This the kid they told me would never hit the charts on his weight gain. His height has always been measured from head to rump so they cant get an exact on his length, but for consistently measuring that way he has grown 2 more inches (thats just head to rump!) He is looking good, he does have a butt rash that has been going on for awhile, we found out he cant tolerate the type of cream we have been using He also has a little ouchie on his ear that we got looked at. Everything else is going well with his overall health. He did get shots, along with his big sister and they are now both pretty tuckered out.
Tomorrow we head to madison for another doctor appointment. He is scheduled to have his trach up-sized, we will see what happens.
Another big day of traveling for him, I am hoping it will go well. I am also hoping the up-sizing the trach will be a good thing. If he didn't need the trach for a long term time frame, he wouldn't need to be upsized, so the fact he is getting a bigger one means trach for many more years. But it also, hopefully means, he will be able to move air better and need less suctioning. All we can do is go day by day.
Some days have been very hard and bleak, especially when we started to have to deal with his swallowing difficulties. The last few days, although, have been good. We started the summer with a bang. My niece was born on the 2nd and May and I got to see her before she was 24 hours old! Then Sol got to meet her a few days later! May has been having friends over, and yesterday we went to the zoo with one of her friends. It was a great day for everyone and it was a ton of fun! I am appreciative to have a nurse so we can do these few things. I really wish there wasn't a need for Sol to have a nurse every day, but at least we are going forward. The best thing is how strong Sol is getting. Recently he has been sticking out his tongue a lot, his legs are kicking like crazy and he LOVES to be on his gym. Every day we are doing it now just because he loves it so much. His neck is getting stronger, he also moved his pinkie this last week, and he has been making noise over his trach too. It really gives me hope for all the things that could possibly come. I hope he is able to pick an apple from our apple tree some day!
On another note...
Some day I would like to write a letter to parents who live in wisconsin and find out their child has a neuromuscular disease, and all the bits of information that we have found on our journey. I know some people have done this, but I believe every person's journey is different and it never hurts to get more information on situations. I think that will require me to have a long time to sit down and really think things through so it is written well and full of all the information we have learned, so that may be coming up, it isn't today, but coming.
On another another note... (copied from his facebook page
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1579362122354190/permalink/1614047012219034/?comment_id=1614062268884175¬if_t=group_comment¬if_id=1465521088722709 )Tomorrow we head to madison for another doctor appointment. He is scheduled to have his trach up-sized, we will see what happens.
Another big day of traveling for him, I am hoping it will go well. I am also hoping the up-sizing the trach will be a good thing. If he didn't need the trach for a long term time frame, he wouldn't need to be upsized, so the fact he is getting a bigger one means trach for many more years. But it also, hopefully means, he will be able to move air better and need less suctioning. All we can do is go day by day.
Some days have been very hard and bleak, especially when we started to have to deal with his swallowing difficulties. The last few days, although, have been good. We started the summer with a bang. My niece was born on the 2nd and May and I got to see her before she was 24 hours old! Then Sol got to meet her a few days later! May has been having friends over, and yesterday we went to the zoo with one of her friends. It was a great day for everyone and it was a ton of fun! I am appreciative to have a nurse so we can do these few things. I really wish there wasn't a need for Sol to have a nurse every day, but at least we are going forward. The best thing is how strong Sol is getting. Recently he has been sticking out his tongue a lot, his legs are kicking like crazy and he LOVES to be on his gym. Every day we are doing it now just because he loves it so much. His neck is getting stronger, he also moved his pinkie this last week, and he has been making noise over his trach too. It really gives me hope for all the things that could possibly come. I hope he is able to pick an apple from our apple tree some day!
Wednesday, June 8, 2016
the hammock.
Babies with arthrogryposis multiplex congenita develop this due to the lack of movement in utero. There are many reasons why there is the lack of movement, if it be that the muscle didn't form which leads to no movement, some cases there isn't enough fluid for baby to move, I've read that sometimes the cord can cause contractures as well. Each child has a different reason as to why they didn't move. We know our babies didn't move because they lack skeletal muscle to give them the strength to move. As they get/got bigger they can take the muscle they have to work with and make that as strong as they can and work with what they have. I never saw any movement from Lua's core, trunk area. I was told at the hospital that it seemed she lacked all muscle in her back, so I was never sure if she would or wouldn't ever move her trunk area. I tried to work with her on that, but it is hard to try to activate those muscles in that area and notice movement from a weak baby. The most we did to work with her was sitting up, sitting up against pillows, or holding her in sitting up position and she did well with all of that. We did tub time where she could move her little body, but because of the trach we never filled the water up too much to protect her from water coming in. I had plans to take her to an aquatic center which would have been easier to hold her in and what not, but we never made it there. So I was never aware of any progress that we made with her core. Sol was pretty much the same. I never saw movement from his trunk, I'm not sure how much muscle he has there, we are continuously told by the speech therapist that he wont get better at his swallowing unless his core gets stronger. I was trying to think of what we could do so he could try to activate his core. He doesn't tolerate sitting up well unless I am holding him up. He aspirates too much saliva to get a good work out from sitting up assisted with pillows and what not. His swing as too much support to actually have him activate those muscles in my opinion. The tub is the same with Lua, we can't fill it enough to really help him be free in that area and it be safe. I was trying to figure out what we could do so he could lay free and feel his whole body move but also be contained in something that was somewhat supportive. The hammock came to mind. I thought about this for awhile and it sounded like a good idea. So I took a blanket and tied to two chairs and safely held him in there. It swings, he feels all of it, he LOVED it. I went on amazon and bought a baby hammock.
Best. Buy. Ever.
It is exactly what I was looking for. When we got the hammock and put him in there, the first few seconds I saw his trunk area do a little shimmy, shake, shake. He loves it. He smiles, He swings. He is free yet supported and I think this will help activate the rest of his body that we can't quite activate for him. I highly, Highly, recommend a baby hammock for any kiddo that has weak trunk area. I actually recommend a baby hammock for any baby! They are awesome, it is kind of like a sling that you would use to wear a baby but you lay it out and let the baby swing by themselves. I am so happy I thought of this idea. He has gone in it a little each day. The first few times he was in it, he was so happy and he didn't require a ton of suctioning, his oxygen level was 100% and his heart rate was 120s, which is lower than his normal of 140s. He was just so content and relaxed in it. If nothing else it is a great thing to let the babies relax on.
Recently Sol has also started to bob holding his head up. He can some what support his head if we sit holding him upright and balance his head. The longest he has held up his head is about a minute. Small amount, small start, but great progress!!! I just keep thinking where he will be in 5 months from now. Hard to say, as long as he continues to improve that is my ultimate goal. He has been feeling pretty well lately too. This weekend we went to see his new baby cousin! And he had a great day. Very little suctioning required, he did great on the car drive, there and back. He had just the best day we have had in a very long time! It has taken us all week to recover from that, but thats okay. We have another trip we are going to make, to madision, on friday and hopefully he does just as well for that trip. I am so proud of him and all the strides he is making. He is one tough little man.
He has also been working on his little gym and his leg movements are going wild! Another thing he absolutely loves! When we had Lua, I strapped balls to her legs to let her move, and she could move like crazy doing that, and she loved it! I didn't see this type of gym, that is actually for SMA kiddos, until we were at the hospital in Madison. This is another must have for kiddos with low muscle tone, contractures, and that are weak. It really helps them to feel free.
There are so many tricks out there to help babies like ours get movement in, and the great thing about all of these things is the fact that the more they work at it, the stronger they potentially can get. The stronger they get, better quality of life they can have. It is one of the things I enjoy through all of this, trying to find new, unique ways to get them to move like we do. I just love to want him and see how happy he gets getting in his hammock, or how much he enjoys kicking his legs around. He gives the biggest smiles. It really is the best feeling in the world. Someone told me once, or I read somewhere, that is the thing about having kids that are different able, it means so much more when they hit mile stones, it is a much bigger deal when they accomplish a new task or experience a new thing. I almost cried when I felt Sol take his head away from my hand and hold his head up on his own.
Those are the moments you live for.
Best. Buy. Ever.
It is exactly what I was looking for. When we got the hammock and put him in there, the first few seconds I saw his trunk area do a little shimmy, shake, shake. He loves it. He smiles, He swings. He is free yet supported and I think this will help activate the rest of his body that we can't quite activate for him. I highly, Highly, recommend a baby hammock for any kiddo that has weak trunk area. I actually recommend a baby hammock for any baby! They are awesome, it is kind of like a sling that you would use to wear a baby but you lay it out and let the baby swing by themselves. I am so happy I thought of this idea. He has gone in it a little each day. The first few times he was in it, he was so happy and he didn't require a ton of suctioning, his oxygen level was 100% and his heart rate was 120s, which is lower than his normal of 140s. He was just so content and relaxed in it. If nothing else it is a great thing to let the babies relax on.
Recently Sol has also started to bob holding his head up. He can some what support his head if we sit holding him upright and balance his head. The longest he has held up his head is about a minute. Small amount, small start, but great progress!!! I just keep thinking where he will be in 5 months from now. Hard to say, as long as he continues to improve that is my ultimate goal. He has been feeling pretty well lately too. This weekend we went to see his new baby cousin! And he had a great day. Very little suctioning required, he did great on the car drive, there and back. He had just the best day we have had in a very long time! It has taken us all week to recover from that, but thats okay. We have another trip we are going to make, to madision, on friday and hopefully he does just as well for that trip. I am so proud of him and all the strides he is making. He is one tough little man.
He has also been working on his little gym and his leg movements are going wild! Another thing he absolutely loves! When we had Lua, I strapped balls to her legs to let her move, and she could move like crazy doing that, and she loved it! I didn't see this type of gym, that is actually for SMA kiddos, until we were at the hospital in Madison. This is another must have for kiddos with low muscle tone, contractures, and that are weak. It really helps them to feel free.
There are so many tricks out there to help babies like ours get movement in, and the great thing about all of these things is the fact that the more they work at it, the stronger they potentially can get. The stronger they get, better quality of life they can have. It is one of the things I enjoy through all of this, trying to find new, unique ways to get them to move like we do. I just love to want him and see how happy he gets getting in his hammock, or how much he enjoys kicking his legs around. He gives the biggest smiles. It really is the best feeling in the world. Someone told me once, or I read somewhere, that is the thing about having kids that are different able, it means so much more when they hit mile stones, it is a much bigger deal when they accomplish a new task or experience a new thing. I almost cried when I felt Sol take his head away from my hand and hold his head up on his own.
Those are the moments you live for.
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